Agape Love

I have a confession to make. I haven't blogged on here yet because the first post is just so intmidating. I always want to make it something incredibly profound and life-altering. Yet that is just my perfectionistic side speaking. I always want perfection, and yet almost never achieve it...does that stop me from attempting it...No. Anyway...I'm just going to cowboy up and blog. So here goes...


I am taking a non-verbal communications class...yes, we do actually speak in class...but the class is all about studying people's non-verbal behaviors because an astonishing 3/4 of what we say does not come out of our mouths. Yep around 3/4 of all human communication is non-verbal. Shocked? I was.

Now I am a studier of people's behaviors. I find it fascinating to watch people and their non-verbal behavior. You can tell so much about a person by how they act. You can tell if someone is lying. You can tell when two people change topic in their conversation. You can even tell when two people aren't getting along. It's probably one of my favorite classes I have ever taken...hands down.

Yesterday in class, we talked about the 6 different types of love.
Eros love - love based purely on the physical.
Manic love - obsessive/jealous love.
Ludus love - love is always a game and fun
Pragma love - practical love, based on a set of qualifications
Storge love - love that is slow moving and grows out of friendship
Agape love - purely self-less love, love where you expect nothing in return

The two top types of love for college students are Eros and Ludus. I was a little saddened when I heard that because I believe that if we truly understood love and what true love is, that the only love we would have is agape. Society today tells us that falling in love should be all about us. What can the other person do for us? We are more focused on getting rather than giving.

I don't always have agape love...I'm still a selfish human being. But I am working on it. I sincerely hope that I will one day learn to love as I truly should love, that I will be only concerned with what I can give and not what I get in return.